April 13, 2010
June 14, 2009
Joyce and I have reflected a lot in the last fortnight.
Among other things, I recall this line a month ago from yishimcgee:
I feel like I failed… I feel no relief.
I wish I could speed the assuaging of her pain… but I cannot. Relief from the feeling of failure — especially when it accompanies loss of someone or something you love — comes only with the passage of time. That’s been my experience.
So today as Joyce, Kenneth, and I pulled two dozen boxes to the point of physical exhaustion, I found comfort in this passage Joyce sent me from Will Wright in the New York Times:
When I’m managing creative people, the way they relate to failure is very important. Because there are certain types of failure that you really want to celebrate. I personally learned a lot more from my failures than from my successes. And if you look at it that way, then all my failures, you know, in some sense brought me to my larger successes, because I recognized why I failed, and I learned from it. And so, at that point, you can even argue that it’s not a failure. It’s part of your learning process.
And so, even with interns, it’s kind of interesting to see how they relate to failure. Does it motivate them, do they go a different direction, do they give up or do they learn from it and get some insight and add it as part of their tool chest? In some sense it is an award that they’ve earned.
One of the questions I will usually ask somebody when I am interviewing them is, what was your biggest failure? And what did you learn from it and what would you have done differently? Within a team setting, a lot of times we’ll go down paths and we’ll prototype things. And at some point we’ll realize it was a bad branch and we have to back up and go take a different branch. Those forays — as a team, we can celebrate those.
No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
I used to sweat every little detail about every little thing. Now I find myself regularly asking, “In five years, will this matter?”
I used to packrat things from every era of my life. Now I’ve started to throw things away. I’m struck by a feeling that until I let go of some things, I have no room to grow. So I look to get rid of anything that isn’t joyful, useful, or beautiful.
I think that’s part of how I’ll get myself back to the right state of mind so I can have the vision to see opportunities again. As Richard the Wise Man once said,
Being in the right place at the right time is actually all about being in the right state of mind.
So yes, unexpected death and feelings of failure happen regularly. They are an inescapable part of this world.
It’s hard to lose people and things. It takes time to internalize what happened and integrate it all as part of ourselves.
I will remember to breathe, and I will remind myself to be patient because healing takes time.
And remember to get outside every day. Because miracles are waiting everywhere.
May 27, 2008
Information delivery system and methods detects and organizes information into canonical topics, such as who, what, when, where, price, etc., and facilitates a user to persistently subscribe to topics, web users, web resources, event streams, etc. The system facilitates a user to register devices and applications on which to receive information, as it becomes available, related to the subscription(s). The system facilitates users to specify preferences for the topics, web users, web resources, and registrations, which prioritize delivery of information. The system senses information, aggregates the user’s registrations, subscriptions, and preferences, and filters information a topic-interest basis. The system notifies a user based on the preferences.
Back to the pandas.
June 29, 2007
June 14, 2007
The gift that keeps on giving:
This here is da original pimp cups that’s used by the veteran pimps who’ve been in the game for a while. You can see why only a true pimp can floss this bling bling cup. You get diamond trim on the top and bottom of the cup as well as multi-color faux gem stones and of course up to 5 letters of whatever you want! Your choice of Gold or Platinum Style cup.
Sterling Hughes, please pass the crunk juice… I has a flavor.
June 10, 2007
If you watch episode #78 (“Soprano Home Movies”) while Tony and Bobby are on the lake they are talking about what happens to people like them, and specifically about what it’s like to get killed. Tony says something along the lines of “you don’t hear the one that gets you,” and Bobby asks
What do you think happens when you die?
to which Tony replies
Nothing, everything just goes black.
May 22, 2007
Thanks, brian who quotes Reid Hoffman as saying, “An entrepreneur is someone that jumps off a cliff and makes the plane on the way down… They’re also off course 90% of the time they’re in the air.”
May 17, 2007
May 16, 2007
FINALLY, after going through a virus attack, losing a hard drive, fighting off hackers, upgrading all my software, installing fire-walls, being threatened with being cut-off by my email provider, and a host of other problems… I have fixed my computer… and NOW it works exactly the way I want it to!