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March 9, 2010

Love is when you open your heart to pain.

Today I asked Joyce what love is.

She thought, and said,

Love is when you open your heart to pain.
The more love, the more open you have to be.
There’s no way to preserve yourself, detach yourself,
observe yourself, catch yourself.

Alicia Keys sings about this kind of love…

This love is more important than any money.

Then Joyce thought some more, and said,

“Middle age is suspecting the happiest day of your life lies in the past.
Old age is knowing it does.
REALLY old age is also knowing your saddest day lies in the past.”

That makes me think of Paulo Coelho, who wrote,

but it always takes us somewhere.”



  1. Pain is the only way to bring our full attention back to the only thing that matters: THIS. PRESENT. MOMENT.Source: http://www.facebook.com/note.php?note_id=431026354145

    Comment by Anonymous — September 5, 2010 @ 2:29 am

  2. You’ll never find the right person if you don’t let go of the wrong person.

    Comment by Anonymous — September 5, 2010 @ 5:55 am

  3. "Love anything and your heart will be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact you must give it to no one, not even an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements. Lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket — safe, dark, motionless, airless — it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. To love is to be vulnerable.– C.S. Lewis

    Comment by Anonymous — April 3, 2011 @ 2:51 pm

  4. Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it. – Rumi

    Comment by Anonymous — April 3, 2011 @ 3:19 pm

  5. If you’re looking for reasons to stay, you should leave; if you’re looking for reasons to leave, you should stay.Also, Alicia Keys’ "Unthinkable" is a pretty awesome background track to your quote…Source: http://www.facebook.com/adam.rifkin/posts/179025682145929

    Comment by Anonymous — April 6, 2011 @ 1:05 am

  6. Truth is, everybody is going to hurt you. You just gotta find the ones worth suffering for.http://ifindkarma.posterous.com/truth-is-everybody-is-going-to-hurt-you-you-j

    Comment by Anonymous — January 10, 2012 @ 1:04 am

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